Breaking the News One of the toughest parts of moving can be telling the children. A change of address can be a turning point in their lives. The good news is the way you handle breaking the news and the subsequent transition period can greatly affect whether it is a positive experience for your children. Begin by doing your homework. There are hundreds of resources on line and in your local library about the emotional make-up of children specific to their age. For instance, a preschool child is more concerned about being left behind during a move. A teenager is focused on how this will affect their friendships. Finding out what is important to each child will help you address their individual concerns. When you share the plans to relocate, be sure to include the motivations for the move and the time frame. If the move is precipitated by a career change, let them know and explain why this important to the long-term goals of the family. If you are going to be visiting open houses, tell them that will be on the family agenda. Next, share your expectations. It is reasonable for you to expect children to participate in this experience. Some examples might be good behavior at open houses, keeping their rooms clean and helping with the packing. Sharing expectations up front sets the stage for better understanding. It is also important to reward cooperation. Decide on something fun you can do as a family.